The memory-making power of Dad's skillet

The memory-making power of Dad's skillet

Eston Boles was a great cook, his daughter remembers. He had to be, because he was the eldest of 13 children born to tenant farmers in Spring City, Tennessee.

“His mother taught him to cook to help her,” says his daughter, the Rev. Sherry Boles.

When Sherry’s parents married, they moved to Chattanooga, but Eston could still fill a skillet with home cooking inspired by the land and lakes of his childhood: Fried chicken. Fish. Okra. Green tomatoes. Biscuits and gravy. Cornbread.

“They cooked what they grew on the farm,” says Sherry. “He liked simple food.”

Today, Sherry is senior pastor at Bearden United Methodist Church in Knoxville, Tennessee. She says she’s “not much of a cook,” but since the pandemic left her with a lot of time at home, she recently tried to recreate her father’s cornbread.

Sherry and her dad, Eston

The cornbread she craves is crackly-crusty from an iron skillet made to sizzle in a hot oven.

“He had a trick where he took the cornbread out of the oven, flipped it, and put it back into the oven for the last few minutes.”

Sherry believes she has approximated the right ingredients: White Lily self-rising cornmeal, 1 egg, milk, vegetable oil … but she doesn’t think her cornbread tastes exactly like her dad’s.

“One time it was too dry. Another time it was real crumbly. His was perfect every time.”

She regrets she didn’t get the recipe written down. “I asked him for it once, and he said, ‘There’s no recipe. You just do it.’”

Eston and Margie with Sherry | 50th anniversary

Eston Boles died in 2009. His obituary said: “He will be missed by the United Methodist Men for his Saturday breakfast.”

He was a member at St. James United Methodist Church until it merged with another church, and then he was a charter member at East Ridge United Methodist Church.

His monthly Southern breakfasts were so legendary, the men had a chef’s hat made for him, with his name embroidered on it.

“Do you have his hat?” I asked Sherry.

“I do,” she said.

Happy Father’s Day out there to dads with memory-making power and the sons and daughters who love them.


Annette Spence

Annette Spence is editor of The Call, the Holston Conference newsletter.

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